Internet dating sites are an increasingly popular way to make new friends or even a life partner. Many marriages have been formed as a result of relationships formed on such web sites. In this article, I’ll share with you some tips on how to achieve the best response when joining one of these sites.
1. Choose a memorable Screen/User Name that describe some distinctive and positive aspect about yourself. For example, “FireFighterGuyinSeattle” or “IrishBlueEyedGuyinSeattle” would be good choices, whereas tired old cliches containing little information such as “BuffDude”, “Sexygirl” or “LonelyGirl” wouldn’t be. Remember, your screen name is one of the very first things that other members of dating sites see, and first impressions count!
2. Most dating sites also allow you to write a tagline, which as with your Screen/User Name is one of the most important tools in making a strong first impression and selling yourself. What you want to aim for is create a one sentence teaser that targets your audience and focuses on something that you want to draw attention to. As with Screen/User Names, you want to avoid tired cliches which say little such as “Looking for a nice guy”, or “Are you the one?”
3. Your picture is also very important, and you may wish to consider getting professional photographs taken – I believe that you will find that it is worth the investment. In any case, what you want to do is use a recent photograph which presents yourself in the best light. That means wearing appropriate clothes, no silly props, and a picture of you on your own – not a group photo leaving people to guess which one is you – and definitely not a picture with your ex cropped out.
4. Writing a profile is not very easy, but it is absolutely crucial. You should aim for around 200 to 350 words, of which 150 to 250 describe yourself, and 50 to 100 describe the type of person that you are looking for. I could wrote a whole book just on how to write your profile, but for now let me just say this: use the AIDA formula – Attention, Interest, Desire, Action. Attract their attention. Catch their interest. Give them a reason to desire you. An end on a strong call to action such as “If you like what you’ve read, don’t just sit there like a bump on a log, you big dummy, send me a message and tell me what’s going on with you!”.
5. Picking a User/Screen Name, writing your tagline and writing your profile are not easy. You need to spend some time thinking about them, preparing them, and editing, rather than just going with the first idea that crosses your mind. If you’re struggling for inspiration, spend a bit of time looking over other people’s profiles at the dating site, and see if that triggers any ideas.
By: Sunil Tanna
The nickname you’ll use online is the most deliberate clue about what kind of person you are. Say for example you got Ana3452 as a nickname, it won’t be a good idea since it’s simple and boring; naming yourself AnaHOTandsexy23 won’t make a good notion either. Certainly, there are lots of aspects to consider when choosing a nickname. Written below are fast guides in creating an outstanding nickname without sounding a sad person or a desperate man or gal.
a. Consider the situation you will be applying your web name. If for instance it’s a dating site, you most likely would like to recognize your sex using your web name, whether it’s by applying a gender specific first name. Implying that you’re handsome cannot hurt in this situation either, so go ahead and use nicknames such as CuteCarlo23 or HandsomeEdward23.
b. Do not pick a nickname related to sex. You will only taint your character and personality so don’t bother with names like TooHotToHandleRico24 or BigHenry4YOU.
c. As much as people hate dirty names, skip also brutal nicknames such as ChaosandDeath24 or FuryandHate17. Certainly no one will add you if you still insist on applying this kind of nicknames.
d. Do not use sad aliases. A negative impression is never alluring so don’t bother using aliases such as SadBoy23 or EmoAllan34.
e. Opt for an alias that shows the true you. You can ask your friends or seek advice from certain people who have known you for a long time. You can discuss with them what your best asset in relation to personality is and then combine that with your nickname. For example if you are a electronics and communication engineer, you can use Daniel24_ECom.@gmail or Dan24Engr.@hotmail.com.
f. On the other hand, you can also go for a screen name that focuses on what you are looking for.
g. Creativity and individuality are attractive as always. Indeed it’s wisest to make a unique screen name. Don’t ever copy certain cool web names you run into in the web. Be creative, not a copy cat.
h. You can also take into consideration childhood aliases, favorite movie characters, pet names, sports aliases, frequent foreign locations and such that have a significant attachment to you.
i. You can also include memorable numbers to your nickname to have it unique from the others. You can pick a series of the same number, your birth date or your anniversary.
j. Ensure you don’t have an embarrassing account how you thought of your screen name when asked by other people. Unless you desire to be a laughing stock.
By: Maryjane Smith
Lesbian dating tips will empower lesbians to go out and form strong and stable relationships. Good dating advice is usually very invaluable and you need to make sure you know what to do in a lesbian relationship. The following are some of the lesbian dating tips that you will find very helpful to you. Lesbian dating is not easy and just like any other relationship, you will realize that you need sound advice at many instances. The first thing is to be yourself and, make sure you maintain a natural flow to a relationship. If you start off as a different person, there is a time where you will unmask and you might not be that pleasing to anybody. Being yourself is not always very easy and, all you have to do is maintain your character and ensure that your principles are intact. The other thing is to have a listening ear. In a relationship, you need to have deep concern for the other person. This way, you will have the heart to listen to your mate honestly.
If you are forced to listen, you will probably get bored and you are likely to stop listening in the future. Another thing is safety. This applies most when you are meeting the person for the first time. This rules that go with the first date are not just for other forms of relationships. Lesbian dating needs to be safe and secure for everyone. Lesbian dating tips are in plenty and, one that is sure to enhance your lesbian relations is honesty. There is no other great tip like this one. You must maintain honesty in the relationship if you want it to work for you. You must be honest with your feelings so that you can take the relationship to levels you have not been to. This is true because lies and deceit will only work for the detriment of your relationship. When meeting for the first time, is it vital that you maintain a light mood. It is not always easy to transform the mood from dull to bright.
Therefore, if you are confident about a few humorous moves, you can engage them and, make your partner more at ease. Some people try flirting moves to make the mood light when you are meeting for the first time. This is fine only if you truly like the person. It is advised that you should keep it subtle. This is because you do not want to scare your date. There is something magical about letting nature takes its course in a relationship. You will be very delighted to know that you do not have to feel overburdened by a relationship for it to work. Obsessing over a relationship will only make you feel uneasy. Therefore, take time and ensure that you take it easy. You need to be ready if you want to take a relationship further. Remember, the key to a relationship is to make it progress from the first day of meeting. You will be pleased to see that you will make your relationship go even further than you anticipated.
By: Francis K Githinji
Unlike in years before, today’s women have a very visual and detailed idea of what they want in a man. Thanks to television, movies and the like, we all can grasp an image of the stereotype ideal – smooth, smiling, confident men who always seem to be wearing and saying the right things. Yes, we understand that women want a man who cares a little about their appearance and health; yes, we understand that women need more than just the knowledge you love them; yes, we definitely understand that your needs are as important as our own.
It’s easy to come up with a list of the most desirable or ideal traits for the perfect man, however knowing what women DO NOT want is also key. Surprising to some, most men do try to act and dress in a way that they think will attract women at least in some form; unfortunately, sometimes guys try so hard with the big picture, they do not realize when they are letting the little things go.
Recently, the world’s largest speed dating and singles event company ran a survey asking women to name what they would consider the least desirable trait for a man to have. Many of the responses were obvious, and don’t need listing: body odour, bad teeth, bad breath…big surprise. Others however, were much more unique and interesting.
Women will be women, and love it or hate it, they are extremely observant, often with things that the average male would never notice. The unique ‘pet peeve’ traits exposed by the study are so fascinating because many of them fall under that category – most guys don’t even realize they are issues, let alone deal breakers for many girls.
The most intriguing responses from the results are:
1) Pants that are not long enough – For some reason, pants that just slightly too short really annoy girls. One woman wrote “If they’re drastically short, I just feel bad and turn away. If they’re just and inch or less too short, it’s even worse. I can’t turn away. I am annoyed and disgusted.”
2) Not washing your hands (both after going to the washroom, and before eating) – This one shouldn’t have to be explained. Please, gentlemen, wash your hands; women notice when you don’t.
3) Dry lips – Chapped lips translate to a chafing, sand-papery kiss, and can turn a cute face into a disappointment.
4) Talking about any other girls (any!) – That means your mom, sisters, friends, and of course, the ex. This only applies to early on, in the first date or meetings.
5) Flexing, and talking about your muscles – It’s cheesy, lame and a certain turn-off.
6) Popping your collar – or any other trend that was cool two years ago, especially if it was thetrend at the time. Anything noticeably hot from the past becomes noticeably not once the fad has ended. FYI – trends don’t last longer than a year usually, if that.
7) Name dropping – If it legitimately comes into the conversation or story it’s no problem. But constantly dropping names, trying to impress, and talking about how many famous or powerful people you know is an instant turn off. Not only is it annoying, it may lead her to believe that she isn’t good enough for you if she also is not powerful or rich as your ‘friends.’
Wearing shorts in the winter – It’s cold out, get over it. You’re no less a man for wearing pants when it’s cold out, but you are less a man if you show you’re too stubborn to change with the season. In the worst cases, men do it to show how ‘manly’ they are, somehow thinking it is manly if they convince you they cannot feel the cold. Women know you can feel the cold. Remember, women have a distinction between manly and stupid. Shorts in the winter falls under ’stupid.’
9) Refusal to accept baldness – This includes everything from the half-cut to the comb-over and everything in between. Balding is a part of life. Accept it; women do. Embrace it and move on, as they do with sagging breasts and bottoms. Such is life.
10) Carrying a XXL condom around, and letting everyone know it – Not only is this a turnoff, it’s obnoxious and sends the message that you just want to get laid, which is probably not the best tactic to take, even if that is your only goal. It doesn’t make you look like a big man (in both senses of the term,) it only serves to degrade both you and her.
Don’t feel bad or embarrassed if you are guilty of employing one or more from the list; just learn from it and move on. You can always turn the offense into a joke later…remember, ladies love laughter!
By: Justin Parfitt
