If you’re a teenage guy, you probably already know how hard it can be to ask a girl out on a date. Here are some tips on how to make the initial asking out go a little smoother (and more in your favor!
1. Get to know her as a friend first. A girl isn’t likely to agree to a first date with a complete stranger, no matter how handsome or charming that stranger is (despite what movies and television may lead you to believe). Also, if you rely purely on something like looks or charm to win her over for that first date, it leaves the door open for some more handsome/charming guy to come along and steal her away because no real chemistry has been established between you and her.
2. If you’re already in the friend zone, don’t play the friend card so much that she begins to see you as a friend and nothing more (or even worse, as such a good friend that she doesn’t want to take the risk of dating you and losing that friendship). Even as a friend, it’s ok to flirt a little.
3. Be confident in yourself. This cannot be stressed enough. If you don’t believe you’re a great guy to date, why should she believe it? Equally important though is making sure that you’re not over-confident – no one likes arrogance. Remind yourself that she’s a great girl to date as well, and you are just as lucky to go out on a date with her as she is to go out on a date with you.
4. Compliment her. This not only means complimenting her on things such as clothing, but also any accomplishments or aspects of her personality that you might admire (“I really liked how you expressed yourself on that assignment”). Compliments also make great conversation starters and precursors to asking a girl out on a date.
5. Expand your circle of female friends. This way even if things don’t work out between you and the girl you want to date, you still have the door open to other girls who might be a better match for you.
Finally, if the girl you want to date rejects you, don’t look at it as a loss but as an advantage. When someone rejects a date with another person, word tends to travel pretty fast. Knowing that she rejected you doesn’t tell other girls that you’re a “loser” as you may think, but instead tells them that you’re available and may need some cheering up. This tends to serve as a “green light” to any girls that may like you but aren’t sure about your availability or if you would be willing to date them.
Most importantly, no matter what happens, keep your chin up! The teen years are rough, but they don’t last long, and things DO get better later down the road. Keep trying… these years are the absolutely best and most important time for you to practice your dating skills.
By: Daniel Hartman
Dating Tips For Guys – Make the Approach and Make Her Attracted to YOU
Author: admin // Category: Relationships
Coaching men on how to become more successful when it comes to meeting and dating women has taught me one thing. For most men, and I would actually stretch that to include almost all men, the approach is the biggest stumbling block. See, even guys that have no problems when approaching average women start to stutter and stammer when they see a drop dead knockout.
If approaching a woman is one of YOUR stumbling blocks, then I can imagine that you want to handle this part of your life RIGHT away. I mean, if you don’t, then you are severely limiting your chances of actually getting the woman to feel attracted to YOU.
Here are some dating tips for guys that will help you make the approach and make her feel attracted to you:
1. You need to quiet any second guessing that is going on in your mind. It’s only natural that this is going to happen. The trick is not to try and prevent it, but to quite the second guessing and push forward even so. Look, nothing really bad can happen just from approaching a woman. The worst that can happen is that you get rejected and that is not the worst thing in the world.
2. You need to develop some thick skin. Like I said, the worst that can happen is that you end up getting rejected by a woman. This is why you need to thicken up that skin of yours. Rejection is just feedback, and you can easily learn from that feedback and determine a better way to make your approach the next time.
3. You need to be able to take her breath away. Sounds pretty intimidating, am I right? Well guess what? It’s not as hard as you might think. You might be surprised at how many times women say that they would love to meet a guy that just does not have any fear about approaching them and does not try and use some cheesy gimmick to impress them. Just being able to walk over to her and do what most men will not can be enough to take her breath away.
By: Chris Tyler
