Online Dating Tip #1 – Take the Time to Read Her Profile
While some online dating advice sites may recommend the ’shotgun’ approach and suggest that guys should contact as many female members of their dating site as possible, this may not, necessarily, be the best approach. Instead of contacting as many female members as possible with short, terse messages, men should take the time to read a woman’s profile and then indicate this to her in an initial contact message. Just taking the time to read her profile and commenting on specifics from her profile will show a woman that a man is interested in what she has to say and set him apart from the countless other guys who do not take the time to do this.
Online Dating Tip #2 – Honesty is the Best Policy
Although it may be natural or tempting to stretch the truth a bit online – after all you don’t really know the person who you are contacting and they don’t know you – this is a bad move for men (and women for that matter). Starting a potential relationship off with a lie or basing a relationship on deception may come back to haunt a person later. Nobody likes to be deceived and this goes for men and women who use online dating sites. Before meeting another person face to face, all anyone has online is their reputation and integrity. Don’t jeopardize what could evolve into a serious relationship by being dishonest. Women will see through this right away.
Online Dating Tip #3 – Be Persistent, Not Overly Aggressive
Finding a woman online who has many of the same interests and multiple desirable qualities is very exciting. So let her know that you are interested and be specific about what you like about her (see online dating tip #1), but don’t be overly aggressive. Create a short, thoughtful message that indicates to her that you have read her profile and then sit back and be patient. If a woman does not respond right away, there may be several reasons for this. For example, she could be on vacation. The last thing a woman will want to do is contact that guy who sent her fifty emails while she was away on vacation and not able to log into to the online dating site. From a woman’s perspective, any man who sends multiple messages without allowing her sufficient time to respond is going to be viewed more as a stalker than a potential suitor. The best approach is to send an initial, thoughtful email and then wait at least one week for her to respond. After this, it may be acceptable to send one follow-up message, but any more attempts to contact a woman at an online dating site will have a negative effect. If she doesn’t respond by this time, just move on.
Online Dating Tip #4 – Keep the Initial Contact Email Short
Men should keep the initial contact email or message to a woman relatively short. Say enough so that the woman knows that you have taken the time to read her profile and provide some information about yourself and why you think you may be a good match and leave it at that. The longer the message you send to a female member of your dating site the more ‘psycho’ you will appear to be. So provide just enough information and maybe end with a question to make it as easy as possible for her to respond.
Online Dating Tip #5 – Never Ask for Personal Information
Dating safety is something that should be important for everyone, but women who use online dating sites may feel especially vulnerable, especially of they are using internet personals for the first time. While you may be interested in how close the object of your desire lives to you or want her phone number, keep such personal inquiries in check until later in your online relationship. If she is interested in you and you have been conversing through emails or IMs for some time, this type of information will flow naturally. Let her suggest a phone conversation before you do or let her take the imitative and suggest meeting in person. By letting the woman take the initiative, she will feel empowered and more in control. So, don’t ask for personal information or details, let the woman take the iniative when it comes to talking or meeting offline and make her feel as comfortable when you do meet, such as suggesting that you meet in a public place. These things can all reinforce the fact that you are a good guy with good intentions.
While there are many additional online dating tips for men who use the internet personals sites, the five tips above are essential for men to ensure the greatest probability for success through online dating. So, if you’re a guy, follow the dating advice above and take the time to read her profile and comment on specifics from her profile, be honest, don’t be overly aggressive, keep your initial contact message short, and make any women you contact through an online dating site feel as comfortable as possible by not being pushy or asking for personal information. What may be seen by you as an innocent question may be seen by her as a violation of her privacy. So try to follow the five essential online dating tips for men above and don’t be surprised if you have more online dating success than ever before.
By: William Gere
There are many times when people find themselves at the end of a relationship, wondering why they didn’t know sooner that it wasn’t going to work out. Or, some people wonder if they will ever meet the person of their dreams.
How do you know if the person you are dating now is the person of your dreams? For the people who say “you just know” they should be congratulated and wished the very best for their good fortune. For the rest of us, meeting people and developing a serious relationship takes a little more work. So when you’re with someone and wondering whether or not you want to make a commitment to a long-term relationship with these people, how do you know what to do?
There are two things you should do together that will help you decide whether or not the relationship should be taken to the next level of commitment.
Make a meal together. If this sounds like an odd suggestion and if you tell anybody that cooking together was a way to determine compatibility, they’ll probably give you a funny look. But consider this: if you’re looking for a long-term commitment, cooking reveals a few things about the other person like: how clean they are, how picky or relaxed they are, how creative and spontaneous they are and ultimately, whether or not you can eat their cooking! Cooking together is also an exercise in communication, the foundation of any good relationship. If things get tense while you cook, that may not be a good sign.
Go on a trip together. This does not have to be a long vacation, just a weekend getaway. Traveling together will help you determine how well you get along with the other person when you’ve seen them for the past 24 hours. Dating gives people a false sense of spontaneous excitement when they are around the other person because often a dating couple may go a few days without seeing each other so they have a lot to talk about when they’re together. However, when you’re traveling, you don’t have any “exciting news” to tell the other person about because you’ve seen them for the past couple days straight! Traveling together also shows you how the other person handles things that require patience, planning, organization, and stressful situations like: what do they do on longer car rides? Do they listen to the radio? Do they have to always be talking? Do they fall asleep when the car pulls out of the driveway? Do they pack their entire wardrobe for a two-day vacation? How do they treat the hotel clerk if the room reservation is wrong?
Traveling together and cooking together will be a good lesson in how you communicate and how you spend your time together. Dating can be a fun experience, but the potential success of turning the dating relationship into a more committed relationship can be determined with of these two activities.
By: Jeff Lakie
